Fluffy Butt Acres: Stories of our flock

[Ponypoor]

Hello everyone. It has been a rough 2 days and probably will continue to be so for a few more. Grandma is not taking her brother's death well. She has admitted she is not physically able to go to the funeral and she is finding that very difficult to accept. 2 of her sisters came to visit this afternoon. Truth be told they made it worse after they left.

Gosh I am sooo saddened to hear this, I take it your Gran doesn’t get on well with her sisters..?

Is there anyway to video tape your uncle’s funeral? We did that with my nephews funeral/memorial - and also live streamed it for those who couldn’t get up from Newfoundland.

Would those be something she would be able to appreciate?

 

[featherhead007]

I have buried too many people in my lifetime. Yet I can’t come up with any solutions or rationale for what is happening to our friend Rebecca here. The notion is just too complex for me to rationalize
So sorry for not having any answers. I count on my friends and family for help and support. If that’s not readily available, I have my emotional support rooster.

 

[RebeccaBoyd]

Gosh I am sooo saddened to hear this, I take it your Gran doesn’t get on well with her sisters..?

Is there anyway to video tape your uncle’s funeral? We did that with my nephews funeral/memorial - and also live streamed it for those who couldn’t get up from Newfoundland.

Would those be something she would be able to appreciate?

Things are very complicated. My grandmother is the oldest of 11 children, 5 of them are now gone. I love her, always have and always will but even I will say she is a very bitter woman. She is out for herself and only herself. If you are not going out of your way to do something for her, she has no use for you. Years ago she hid this very well, from me at least. She is not able to hide it any longer. Even my uncle who just passed and came by weekly sat and told me horror stories of things she did growing up and in her adult life. She has burned bridges with her siblings, some I feel safe enough saying permanently. The family unit really crumbled when her mother passed away almost 14 years ago. Then a few months later lost a sister who of them all was the closest to. I think she is realizing she brought this upon herself. I hear firsthand what she says about them on a daily basis, I do not blame them for not calling or visiting. Today I wanted to scream. She has 1 sister left who tries to call and talk to her but she does not want to talk. She has came a few times but this sister also has a disabled daughter who is a year younger then me that she is the primary caregiver to. She threw her under the bus and flat out lied that she never called or visited and that never gave her anything. This was all over shuckbeans. She asked the 2 of them today if they had made any this year and they said no, but the other one had maybe she could give her a mess of them which brought on that comment. Yes grandma she never does anything yet you are currently using one of the 10 brand new heavy duty hospital shuck pads that she brought over and gave to us days after you came home from the hospital.

 

[Ponypoor]

Things are very complicated. My grandmother is the oldest of 11 children, 5 of them are now gone. I love her, always have and always will but even I will say she is a very bitter woman. She is out for herself and only herself. If you are not going out of your way to do something for her, she has no use for you. Years ago she hid this very well, from me at least. She is not able to hide it any longer. Even my uncle who just passed and came by weekly sat and told me horror stories of things she did growing up and in her adult life. She has burned bridges with her siblings, some I feel safe enough saying permanently. The family unit really crumbled when her mother passed away almost 14 years ago. Then a few months later lost a sister who of them all was the closest to. I think she is realizing she brought this upon herself. I hear firsthand what she says about them on a daily basis, I do not blame them for not calling or visiting. Today I wanted to scream. She has 1 sister left who tries to call and talk to her but she does not want to talk. She has came a few times but this sister also has a disabled daughter who is a year younger then me that she is the primary caregiver to. She threw her under the bus and flat out lied that she never called or visited and that never gave her anything. This was all over shuckbeans. She asked the 2 of them today if they had made any this year and they said no, but the other one had maybe she could give her a mess of them which brought on that comment. Yes grandma she never does anything yet you are currently using one of the 10 brand new heavy duty hospital shuck pads that she brought over and gave to us days after you came home from the hospital.

I am sorry to hear this, human emotions and temperament are all very complicated; esp when dealing with siblings - they don’t call it sibling rivalry for nothing

Hopefully your Gran can come to a better understanding with her remaining siblings but if not then that is on her - not anyone else.

Hear is a smile to cheer you up

Baby silkies

 

[Marie2020]

That’s what I wanted to do, but nope, my parents got two small coops that will fit 12 chickens. I wish that I could get a nice, big shed, but my dad said no. I really wanted a shed.

Then just tidying up those two coops would be good. The plus side on that idea is that you can split up the groups that don't get along so well. 400 should be suffice for a tiny up and maybe runs for them to.

I'm no expert these are only my thoughts from this end.

 

[Marie2020]

Things are very complicated. My grandmother is the oldest of 11 children, 5 of them are now gone. I love her, always have and always will but even I will say she is a very bitter woman. She is out for herself and only herself. If you are not going out of your way to do something for her, she has no use for you. Years ago she hid this very well, from me at least. She is not able to hide it any longer. Even my uncle who just passed and came by weekly sat and told me horror stories of things she did growing up and in her adult life. She has burned bridges with her siblings, some I feel safe enough saying permanently. The family unit really crumbled when her mother passed away almost 14 years ago. Then a few months later lost a sister who of them all was the closest to. I think she is realizing she brought this upon herself. I hear firsthand what she says about them on a daily basis, I do not blame them for not calling or visiting. Today I wanted to scream. She has 1 sister left who tries to call and talk to her but she does not want to talk. She has came a few times but this sister also has a disabled daughter who is a year younger then me that she is the primary caregiver to. She threw her under the bus and flat out lied that she never called or visited and that never gave her anything. This was all over shuckbeans. She asked the 2 of them today if they had made any this year and they said no, but the other one had maybe she could give her a mess of them which brought on that comment. Yes grandma she never does anything yet you are currently using one of the 10 brand new heavy duty hospital shuck pads that she brought over and gave to us days after you came home from the hospital.

Your G.mother is somehow still very blessed having YOU and your family.

She could do with a little gratitude or counting her chickens as we say here.

Please don't keep wearing yourself out, take time for you and being with your loved ones.

 

[Marie2020]

This idea would work! Just get creative. Chooks will find the craziest place to lay their eggs.
My coop is an old mechanics shop, that was broken down into two parts. I rebuilt it with the extra lumber found around the property. I only paid for paint, chicken wire and baby chicks

Well done Alex

 

[Marie2020]

For 10 chickens that will be very expensive

I look forward to seeing what you get

The carpenter that built my coop, messed up by putting the roof on the tilt the wrong way around, which causes havoc when it rains... but he thought the nest are out really well.
He used one plank of wood along the top and five pieces of wood along the bottom. One either side of the plank, holding it up securely and three in the middle making 3 good nesting areas. Imo, that was good thinking

 

[Marie2020]

I have buried too many people in my lifetime. Yet I can’t come up with any solutions or rationale for what is happening to our friend Rebecca here. The notion is just too complex for me to rationalize
So sorry for not having any answers. I count on my friends and family for help and support. If that’s not readily available, I have my emotional support rooster.

I have my cat and dog plus some lovely friends which i really appreciate
But the way things are going in this world, who knows how long I'll be able to stay near my friends. Plus being real, my dog is at the end of his life.

There are still some good people in the world thank goodness. I'm just praying I can find the right place and people when needs must. I try to stay positive and look for the best ways always to keep going

 

[Marie2020]

I am sorry to hear this, human emotions and temperament are all very complicated; esp when dealing with siblings - they don’t call it sibling rivalry for nothing

Hopefully your Gran can come to a better understanding with her remaining siblings but if not then that is on her - not anyone else.

Hear is a smile to cheer you up

Baby silkies
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Wise lady!