My Alpha Husband jumped up, pulled that belt off and used amazing restraint! I would have used that belt, but he didn’t. Got in his face though.
It has to be hormones! If not, he needs therapy. This isn’t my child!
My sil has no children and just got married last summer at age 48.
She has given her advice on everything having to do with marriage and child rearing for as long as I've known her.
After 4 grown kids I'm offering actual advice.
If "you suck!" is the worst thing your kid ever says to you, you can consider yourself to be blessed beyond measure.
I'm not kidding.
BLESSED.
LIKE ANGELS SINGING IN THE CLOUDS WITH SHIMMERING GOLDEN HARPS, BLESSED.
The hardest part of fighting with a teenager is not blowing up and saying things that YOU can never take back when they start hurling their angry words.
Those words they hurl at us,
Damn they hurt!
Gosh they are disobedient and disrespectful.
Yup.
But we are the grown ups. They'll never figure out how to solve problems that way. We have to model self control for them.
Put the belt away or by the time he grows up, he'll be so full of resentment that he'll move as far away as he can and you'll miss out on being a part of his life.
It's hormones.
He can't help it.
He's still in there.
It's just that the next several years might be on and off rough because he is going to flip flop like crazy.
He wants to be your boy, but he wants to be a big guy too. And there will be challenges to authority,
Just like the young cockerels you guys all talk about on these threads challenging the grown up Roos.
It's just nature.
Men always talk trash about women and their cycles.
Guess what?
Men cycle too.
Just differently.
Also nature.
Hormones are a normal part of kids development and Ooh! OUCH! JEEZAWIZ, it isn't pretty.
Unless he's torturing animals, hurting himself, setting fires, or stealing the car,
count to 1000 then talk it out.
Ten is definitely not enough.
Nor is 100.
Sometimes a thousand hardly begins to cover it.
Just lock yourself in your room and come here and tell us what a little butt he's being and we'll cheer you up.
Because that's what friends are for.
I'm sharing this from a place of experience and love.
Please don't be offended.