I was going to suggest a home health nurse, which is the same as what Rae suggested. The medicine dispenser is a good idea, as long as it's affordable and dispenses in to something that he can manage. They do make over sized weekly medicine boxes. Also, look in to a meals on wheels type thing, that way you know he's getting a good meal daily, plus it's another way to make sure someone is checking on him regularly.
I am pushing for them to contact meals on wheels. I went on their website a few weeks ago which was awesome and was surprised to learn so many things about it, such as
You don’t have to be poor to receive this benefit (although FIL is). They charge you on a sliding scale.
 
A situation like that with FIL can be very draining. If he refuses to live with someone perhaps he could live in an assisted living facility. If his tremors are so bad he can't hold pills how is he going to take them? I have heard of pharmacies that will load pill containers for you. Maybe he could dump the pills in a bowl with applesauce and spoon them up that way?
And what a person wants and what they need may be very far apart. It is a full time job being a caregiver. A very tiring, frustrating, and thankless job. Been there, done that.
 
@staceyj You may be able to find a retired nurse who will work part time to check on him. They can’t necessarily be a “nurse” but are better at recognizing issues and working with a person in a patient capacity.
ALSO a good idea.
The problem is finding, interviewing and trust.
His siblings have already proven to be completely checked out on most issues as if they were hoping they wouldn’t ever have to face them and he’d just pass in his sleep.

Can’t help but say when MY parents were still alive, my sisters and I took excellent, loving care of them to the very end and my mom “lingered”.
Not patting myself on the back, just pointing out family differences.
 
https://www.lifeline.philips.com/pill-dispenser/health-mdp.html
$59.95 /month
Features and Benefits of the Automated Medication Dispensing Service
Flexible dispensing for complex regimens
  • Dispenses up to 60 cups
  • Accommodates 1 to 40 days of medicine
  • Holds up to 6 doses per day
  • Reminder alerts for non-pill medications
  • Reminder alerts for instructions on taking meds
  • Optional early-dose feature
Safety features
  • Program for PRN (on demand) medications (the only system that offers this feature)
  • Locked cabinet that controls access
  • Rechargeable battery
Caregiver alerts provide peace of mind for caregivers
Receive alerts for:

  • Number of missed doses
  • Reminder when medication doses need refilling
  • Dispenser errors
  • Loss of electricity
  • View your loved one's activity through our Monitoring report available online, 24 hours per day


cheap version
https://www.amazon.com/pill-Automatic-Dispenser-institutional-medication/dp/B00020BK9S
e-pill Automatic Pill Dispenser for home or institutional use. MD1 MedTime XL. Original Swedish Design. Complete with two medication trays, two metal keys. Easy filling with included Pill Sorting and Filling Tray.
Price: $389.95 & FREE Shipping
About the product
  • Automatic Pill Dispenser - Dispense up to 28 times/day
  • Never Forget or Double Dose again!
  • Simple to Use - great for Early Alzheimer's patients
  • Locked medication dispenser - 2 KEYS, 2 MED Tray, and (1) Pill Sorting and Filling Tray to help organize and fill your e-pill automatic pill dispenser.
  • Most Popular e-pill Medication Reminder



ALSO a good idea.
The problem is finding, interviewing and trust.
His siblings have already proven to be completely checked out on most issues as if they were hoping they wouldn’t ever have to face them and he’d just pass in his sleep.

Can’t help but say when MY parents were still alive, my sisters and I took excellent, loving care of them to the very end and my mom “lingered”.
Not patting myself on the back, just pointing out family differences.
 
https://www.lifeline.philips.com/pill-dispenser/health-mdp.html
$59.95 /month
Features and Benefits of the Automated Medication Dispensing Service
Flexible dispensing for complex regimens
  • Dispenses up to 60 cups
  • Accommodates 1 to 40 days of medicine
  • Holds up to 6 doses per day
  • Reminder alerts for non-pill medications
  • Reminder alerts for instructions on taking meds
  • Optional early-dose feature
Safety features
  • Program for PRN (on demand) medications (the only system that offers this feature)
  • Locked cabinet that controls access
  • Rechargeable battery
Caregiver alerts provide peace of mind for caregivers
Receive alerts for:

  • Number of missed doses
  • Reminder when medication doses need refilling
  • Dispenser errors
  • Loss of electricity
  • View your loved one's activity through our Monitoring report available online, 24 hours per day


cheap version
https://www.amazon.com/pill-Automatic-Dispenser-institutional-medication/dp/B00020BK9S
e-pill Automatic Pill Dispenser for home or institutional use. MD1 MedTime XL. Original Swedish Design. Complete with two medication trays, two metal keys. Easy filling with included Pill Sorting and Filling Tray.
Price: $389.95 & FREE Shipping
About the product
  • Automatic Pill Dispenser - Dispense up to 28 times/day
  • Never Forget or Double Dose again!
  • Simple to Use - great for Early Alzheimer's patients
  • Locked medication dispenser - 2 KEYS, 2 MED Tray, and (1) Pill Sorting and Filling Tray to help organize and fill your e-pill automatic pill dispenser.
  • Most Popular e-pill Medication Reminder
Going to pass this info to DH when he checks in later today eta: and thank you!
 
@FlyingNunFarm, girl you give good advice don't even worry. @staceyj , There are tons of older ladies that "babysit" people who need a little help. Check Angie's list. They aren't nurses but they can give a pill, make a sandwich or handle an emergency. New thing this morning and I have NO idea where this came from since we have never had one ever. Hubs is convinced brahmas are mean chickens and i'm going to have "trouble" out of Sallie. The only trouble so far is putting her down once you've picked her up because she likes being in a hand.:rolleyes:
 
@FlyingNunFarm, girl you give good advice don't even worry. @staceyj , There are tons of older ladies that "babysit" people who need a little help. Check Angie's list. They aren't nurses but they can give a pill, make a sandwich or handle an emergency. New thing this morning and I have NO idea where this came from since we have never had one ever. Hubs is convinced brahmas are mean chickens and i'm going to have "trouble" out of Sallie. The only trouble so far is putting her down once you've picked her up because she likes being in a hand.:rolleyes:
I actually used to be an elder care respite sitter. I loved it.
If I didn’t live 9 hrs away I’d be his caretaker.
He doesn’t want to move here. Too unfamiliar.
 
@staceyj there is also a new practice where all his pills can come prepackaged, like say he has 3, 8AM pills... they come in a little baggie he pops open and takes. Better than having to figure them out once a week. They're delivered prepackaged. My mom has that service now.

And ladies, let's not forget who has the SUPER TATER DH! Me. I no longer even try to speak to him about the chickens... other than asking if he can feed them once in a while when my hands are busy with other things or, like now, when I am sick.
 

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