This is one thing that annoys me about Christmas. I always tell my kids I don't need/ want a gift. My gift is them not fighting for the day (I've never gotten it.. but they do try). Last year my youngest insisted on getting me a new coffee maker when mine was perfectly fine. She used her own money she'd been given as gifts which isn't right, IMO. But their dad is a different story. He expects a gift and will have a fit if he thinks it's not good enough. They also can't share a gift. And they have to get something for his wife and his parents (her mom is JW so they don't get her a gift). This ticks me off to no end. IMO THEY should take the kids shopping and get the gifts instead of expecting the kids or me to buy them. My kids don't get an allowance so they're either spending money they were given as a gift or my $$ to buy their gifts. I can't not help the kids b/c they get really stressed out about it. I've always had them exchange gifts with each other since they were little and that's fun, but it's not super expensive and it helps them b/c they get to think about their sister and what they like. Of course, I pay for that so I don't expect them to use their for that. When they're older and have jobs then they can decide what they want to keep doing it. I don't do gift exchanges for my brother's kids. None of us do. We spend our $$ on our own kids instead. I just don't understand when people expect every person in the extended family to buy gifts for everyone else. It just seems excessive.
Wow, that's so stressful and unreasonable. Christmas is about giving, not receiving and to expect and basically demand something, especially from the kids is just heartbreaking
