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Sorry to hear you are having so much trouble. I remember how hard it was when my father’s dementia started to get really bad. At some point you will need to discuss with the doctor having her declared incompetent to make her own medical decisions. Because even though she may be thinking clearly some of the time, it isn’t consistent enough to make sound decisions.
My father had Parkinson’s and managed to keep it from me for a few years. Once I found out I was worried about him driving because his reaction times were so slow. And the waitresses at his little small town Callie told me they said a prayer every time they saw him pulling in that he wouldn’t get hit making the turn and would stop before he drove into the restaurant. So I asked him if he was still supposed to be driving. His answer was “the doctor hasn’t said I can’t”. So I made sure I went to his next appointment, and asked the doctor point blank how much longer he would be able to drive. The doctor’s answer? “Oh he shouldn’t be driving at all any more, definitely not.” So either the doctor assumed he would no it wasn’t safe, or dad “forgot” that he wasn’t supposed to be driving.
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