Well, we will all have different takes on this, as we each feel, express, and deal with emotional situations differently. So, this is just true for me (others may disagree vehemently!).
I view the outpouring of support positively, even after the fact. It may make me cry, but then I'm a bit of a water-fountain anyways. Despite this, it is nice to know that people understand my love of my animals, offer support and suggestions/help, and are understanding when you are having a particularly bad day remembering a former friend. With this being an international group, this is bound to happen at times due to differing time zones. Someone may be on after work, posting well wishes, and I wake up to find a friend has passed, take care of them and my others, THEN log into FBA to well wishes for my already passed friend.....BUT NO ONE KNOWS YET. So, it will happen at times anyways.
What I try to do: read as much as possible, then make a point to go back and respond if I am concerned (and don't want to post incorrectly if a chicken is not doing well).
Again, everyone will feel differently, but this is my personal take. That said,
@BY Bob is quite empathetic (GREAT emotional intelligence, that one!!


), AND this is his thread. Maybe he can offer suggestions. He has had quite a rough year, and may have more insight regarding this than me. Like I said, I'm just a water-fountain all the time with losses.