Official Squatch Watchers

[CapricornFarm]

It is as lovely as a spring day here. Sunny and 60°. I am loving it.
Last night i put the pair of Tolbunt Polish chickens in the coop with the trio. Hoping i get better fertility since the young fella isn't getting the job done. Also hope there is no blood shed between the two roos.

Poor Archie is standing in the corner of the run facing the coop wall like he has been a bad boy. I guess Rock Star won, but that means i need to take him out so Archie can be daddy. The hens are getting along fine.

 

[CapricornFarm]

Although still being nice to me for some reason B. Pudding hates poor little Clayton. I’m apparently running thunder dome for chickens and she’s the reigning champ.
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And here’s the sign in daylight....
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Yes it’s snowing.

Love your sign, looks great!

 

[FlyingNunFarm]

I would like to, but he always sticks up for them. He doesn't see it as intentional, he'll say they are just ignorant. And then he gets upset with me cuz I am upset.

When we first got together, for a long time his sister that same framed picture of them (wedding photo) on her wall. And it bothered me, to the point where I said something. They took it down (and probably talked about me behind my back, I'm sure).

They have NEVER included me in photos when we are all together and it always made me feel very left out. I hate getting my picture taken, ut still. My family would NEVER do stuff like that, we are loving and accepting and think of other people's feelings.

When DH and I were engaged and his son died, his ex wife made a stink and I was not allowed to sit next to him in the pew. His nasty ex flipped out on me at the repast while I was quietly eating my dinner,, and I ran out of there and hid outside, smoking and crying I was banned from the memorial service (and we broke up shortly after that, because I was done) . His family has always taken her side, even thouogh she is a horrible person. But she is the one who popped out all his kids and I never get to forget that.


My mom and my family were nothing but loving and kind to DH. I don't want to be around his family any more and he gets mad at me when I try to get out of gatherings. I hate this time of year.

Tell DH for your health and marriage you aren't going to family gatherings anymore. It was rude and thoughtless to include a picture of his ex and then not include any pictures of you. Let alone their wedding picture. There is no joy in going if you don't want to and even less if you feel unwelcome.

 

[21hens-incharge]

OK, so here goes.

I'm gonna preface this by saying that I have been with my DH for 9 years tomorrow. A long time. I have been through a TON of crap with him--his son getting killed, my nephew getting killed, my mom dying, my house getting destroyed in Sandy, my crackup, job loss, you name it. My point is, we have history. And I am his WIFE. And all through it, I have never felt like his family has really liked or accepted me, although they are polite (they are WEIRD. Silent, noncommunicative, non-animal-loving not-my-people- kind of people).

So we went up north like an hour and a half yesterday for a surprise 50th anniversary party for his sister and her husband. It was thrown by DH's nephew and his wife, the anniversary couple's son. We gave them a nice chunk of change and a card and I took a Xanax beforehand (to deal with the stress of going, because I don't like being around that many people and a bunch of screaming kids and stuff). So I thought I was cool, it was all cool.

I go over by the buffet table and they have these clotheslines with all these old family photos strung up. And there staring me in the face, is DH'S WEDDING PICTURE WITH HIS EX WIFE. In her gown, he in his tux, all the old dead family members in the wedding party. Like--are you FREAKING. KIDDING. ME???!!!

Which is exactly what I said. Before I grabbed my beer and stood out on the front porch, fuming. He comes out a while later to see if I was OK, which I was not. He goes, "I told Michael (his nephew) and he covered her head with the clothespin." Frigging REALLY? I was like, I'm not coming in the house till that sh1t comes down, that is ridiculous and unacceptable (needless to say, there are no pics of me and him--nor am I ever invited to be in any of their family photos when they get together, something else that has always bothered me).He comes back out awhile later and says "they took it down. You can come in now." I did, I take another half Xanax, am still fuming and just want to go home.

When I go over to (surreptitiously, not) look and see if it is truly gone, Michael's wife makes some snide-azz remark like "oh we had to move the picture here" as she rearranged the clothespins. I said nothing, taking the high road. In fact, I said pretty much nothing for the rest of the (miserably too-long) evening. On the way home, when I got home, except to mention how totally hosed I think his family is. Then I went to bed. And cried.

I am still upset. Do you think I am overreacting? I don't want to go to any of the rest of their horrible holiday gatherings. They suck.

That's not the first time they've done stuff like that....

And now I feel like crying again. Except I'm mad. Still.


If you have been able to read this whole thing (I know, I know) I would really like your opinion. Thanks~ xo

I would like to, but he always sticks up for them. He doesn't see it as intentional, he'll say they are just ignorant. And then he gets upset with me cuz I am upset.

When we first got together, for a long time his sister that same framed picture of them (wedding photo) on her wall. And it bothered me, to the point where I said something. They took it down (and probably talked about me behind my back, I'm sure).

They have NEVER included me in photos when we are all together and it always made me feel very left out. I hate getting my picture taken, ut still. My family would NEVER do stuff like that, we are loving and accepting and think of other people's feelings.

When DH and I were engaged and his son died, his ex wife made a stink and I was not allowed to sit next to him in the pew. His nasty ex flipped out on me at the repast while I was quietly eating my dinner,, and I ran out of there and hid outside, smoking and crying I was banned from the memorial service (and we broke up shortly after that, because I was done) . His family has always taken her side, even thouogh she is a horrible person. But she is the one who popped out all his kids and I never get to forget that.


My mom and my family were nothing but loving and kind to DH. I don't want to be around his family any more and he gets mad at me when I try to get out of gatherings. I hate this time of year.

Oh dear! PBM! Hon you don't need that crap in your life.

Have you told your hubby that you would appreciate it if he stood up for you?

My hubby's dad keeps a picture of hubby's ex wife up too.
I don't mind him doing that cause I am in Colorado and he in Mississippi.

I do see what they did as disrespectful of you and of the fact that he IS married to NOT HER.

It's dismissive, rude, exclusionary, and needs to stop.

Curious, was she at the gathering?

If she was I would have called me one of those uber cars.

 

[Molpet]

OK, so here goes.

I'm gonna preface this by saying that I have been with my DH for 9 years tomorrow. A long time. I have been through a TON of crap with him--his son getting killed, my nephew getting killed, my mom dying, my house getting destroyed in Sandy, my crackup, job loss, you name it. My point is, we have history. And I am his WIFE. And all through it, I have never felt like his family has really liked or accepted me, although they are polite (they are WEIRD. Silent, noncommunicative, non-animal-loving not-my-people- kind of people).

So we went up north like an hour and a half yesterday for a surprise 50th anniversary party for his sister and her husband. It was thrown by DH's nephew and his wife, the anniversary couple's son. We gave them a nice chunk of change and a card and I took a Xanax beforehand (to deal with the stress of going, because I don't like being around that many people and a bunch of screaming kids and stuff). So I thought I was cool, it was all cool.

I go over by the buffet table and they have these clotheslines with all these old family photos strung up. And there staring me in the face, is DH'S WEDDING PICTURE WITH HIS EX WIFE. In her gown, he in his tux, all the old dead family members in the wedding party. Like--are you FREAKING. KIDDING. ME???!!!

Which is exactly what I said. Before I grabbed my beer and stood out on the front porch, fuming. He comes out a while later to see if I was OK, which I was not. He goes, "I told Michael (his nephew) and he covered her head with the clothespin." Frigging REALLY? I was like, I'm not coming in the house till that sh1t comes down, that is ridiculous and unacceptable (needless to say, there are no pics of me and him--nor am I ever invited to be in any of their family photos when they get together, something else that has always bothered me).He comes back out awhile later and says "they took it down. You can come in now." I did, I take another half Xanax, am still fuming and just want to go home.

When I go over to (surreptitiously, not) look and see if it is truly gone, Michael's wife makes some snide-azz remark like "oh we had to move the picture here" as she rearranged the clothespins. I said nothing, taking the high road. In fact, I said pretty much nothing for the rest of the (miserably too-long) evening. On the way home, when I got home, except to mention how totally hosed I think his family is. Then I went to bed. And cried.

I am still upset. Do you think I am overreacting? I don't want to go to any of the rest of their horrible holiday gatherings. They suck.

That's not the first time they've done stuff like that....

And now I feel like crying again. Except I'm mad. Still.


If you have been able to read this whole thing (I know, I know) I would really like your opinion. Thanks~ xo

there is no way I would ever grace those people with my presence again

 

[FlyingNunFarm]

Oh dear! PBM! Hon you don't need that crap in your life.

Have you told your hubby that you would appreciate it if he stood up for you?

My hubby's dad keeps a picture of hubby's ex wife up too.
I don't mind him doing that cause I am in Colorado and he in Mississippi.

I do see what they did as disrespectful of you and of the fact that he IS married to NOT HER.

It's dismissive, rude, exclusionary, and needs to stop.

Curious, was she at the gathering?

If she was I would have called me one of those uber cars.

Henny!!! This....

"If she was I would have called me one of those uber cars."

I love you guys!

 

[pitbullmomma]

Tell DH for your health and marriage you aren't going to family gatherings anymore. It was rude and thoughtless to include a picture of his ex and then not include any pictures of you. Let alone their wedding picture. There is no joy in going if you don't want to and even less if you feel unwelcome.

He insists it was not them being malicious, just thoughtless. I'm sorry, but how can you be that thoughtless?

We just had a huge fight over it; he yelled at me and acted like it is my fault and I am the a--hole for being upset.

He said "don't go to any more family things, you never want to go anyway." It is true I do hate going and try to get out because I have always felt excluded.

Now I REALLY do not want to go to any more of their incessant holiday get togethers....and then I get crap from him when I don't want to go ie "You hate my family." Well, they never acted like they really like me!

 

[HuffleClaw]

If it helps anyone feel better, my quirky self just spit a LOT of yogurt on my cloth couch when I was laughing. Okay, I probably doesn’t help, but I’m still laughing while cleaning it up

 

[pitbullmomma]

Oh dear! PBM! Hon you don't need that crap in your life.

Have you told your hubby that you would appreciate it if he stood up for you?

My hubby's dad keeps a picture of hubby's ex wife up too.
I don't mind him doing that cause I am in Colorado and he in Mississippi.

I do see what they did as disrespectful of you and of the fact that he IS married to NOT HER.

It's dismissive, rude, exclusionary, and needs to stop.

Curious, was she at the gathering?

If she was I would have called me one of those uber cars.

I have told him to stand up for me since we first met. We won't even go there.


Thank you for saying what you did, it makes me feel validated! And I know you are grieving, and you are still there. You Squatchers are good people, much love....

Oh HAILS to the NO she wasn't there. She lives in FL and can stay there until death do us part! I wouldn't stand for her being at anything up here, ever!!!!!

 

[pitbullmomma]

there is no way I would ever grace those people with my presence again

Thank you Moly.